A little History of Parent Coaching

Coaching as we know it today is a rather new profession and has been around for about 15 years. What makes coaching an effective process is that coaching questions are based on the method called Appreciative Inquiry. In 1996, David Cooperider at Case Western University wrote the “Appreciative Inquiry Manual.” This method takes us out of the problem-solution mode and into the realm of possibility thinking. For example, instead of asking a parent “How can we resolve this issue?” the question is formulated as an appreciative inquiry: “What would happen if your child were excited about school?” The difference in creating reality through the eyes of wonder and focus on our positive outcome, is a powerful and amazing process. If you were going to take a fork in the road while hiking, the Appreciating Inquiry trail would be the one with the most beautiful scenery, yet variety and challenge. It would happen at your own pace with a traveling companion that told nothing but encouraging stories (as coaches do).

Parent Coaches are taught this method as it applies to parenting during their course work at the Parent Coaching Institute, and as I understand it, most coach trainings spend a significant amount of time studying and practicing it. I am excited to coach parents because I can never predict how the positive outcome will unfold. Each family’s process is like a beautiful blossom, revealing it’s beauty one petal at a time. In honoring the pace and process of the parent, the child is honored and handled in the most positive way. Parents have told me that their children say “You’re different now. You smile more and listen better.” What a gift!

What would you like your children to say about you in five years, ten years, when they are adults? Would you like to parent in a way that honors your child’s process and helps them develop more emotional intelligence? Then call me today to begin a dynamic dialogue that will transform your relationship with yourself, your partner and your children.